The importance of communication
I love to get to know someone — learn how they act, react to different situations and their opinion on different topics.
I find it comforting to talk to someone on the phone. Calling my best friend and telling her why I had a bad day is comforting, relaxing and calming, much more so than simply texting back and forth. I enjoy hearing her voice.
I love when someone calls me so that they can hear my tone of voice, and I can’t be as easily misinterpreted as I could in a text. I also find it comforting when I can confide in someone face-to-face. I can see their facial expressions to tell if they’re truly compassionate in whatever they say or not, hear their voice and even a hug or a touch can move mountains.
Studies show that most teenagers don’t feel the same way. 54 percent of teenagers text their friends on a daily basis, 38 percent talk on the phone and only 33 percent communicate in person.
Our generation has mastered figuring out people when we’re texting them, but we fall short communicating while looking at each other face-to-face. We’re so used to confronting someone through a text message or subtweet, but we can’t look someone in the eyes and tell them why we’re hurt or frustrated.
I understand this with some things. It’s easier to send a heart-eye-emoji instead of telling someone with the possibility of it turning extremely awkward. It’s easier to use Snapchat when you can use a filter and take multiple pictures instead of possibly looking bad in person. That’s understandable.
But what about when you’re mad or hurt?
Our generation has to become more comfortable with being honest with someone, not just expecting to pick up your change in texting style. Communication is so important, and if we don’t build those habits now, when we’re adults all of our relationships will be broken because we will have bottled up all of our emotions.
65 percent of marriages that end in divorce now are because of failure to communicate. Let’s be the generation that lowers that number instead of raising it by simply learning to communicate.
Bottling up never helps anyone. Bitterness and sadness develop in our hearts and we already have enough of that in this world. Let us be the generation that opens up to people and isn’t afraid of getting embarrassed or things being awkward.
We need to start communicating and telling people how we feel instead of assuming they’ll figure it out after a couple texts with periods.
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